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Sibling rivalry is real and Reeditor u/Arctic-Bear11345 recently made a post on the popular subreddit ‘Am I the [Jerk]?’ that illustrates how it can stress a family.
He shared a dilemma regarding his children’s upcoming weddings. With Tom, his 26-year-old son, and Judy, his 22-year-old stepdaughter, planning to tie the knot during the same summer, tensions have arisen over the differences in plans and especially expenses.
You see, his wife demands the man ask his son to cover her daughter’s expenses, and he thinks this idea is so absurd, he doesn’t even want to discuss it.
Image credits: Amar Preciado (not the actual photo)
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Sonja Sonja Community Member Follow
I would get the wife's perspective if both children were at the same age and the parents paid the bill. But the son is four years older than the daughter and both are using their own money. The son has waited longer and saved more money. The daughter can just do the same. It's absolutely not fair to penalize the son for the decision of the daughter to marry while still in school. That's on her! She can just do what her brother did, wait four more years and save some money. Maybe try to get a job before they marry to pay for it. Expecting her brother to foot her bill just so she can marry four years earlier than him is entitled and ridiculous. And yes, I know they're marrying in the same year, but since she's younger it's four years earlier in her life than for him. And that's what makes this unfair. Their situations are not the same, and her brother is not responsible for that difference. Her hurry is the reason why she can't afford a similar wedding.
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Brocken Blue Brocken Blue Community Member Follow
Yup, if it’s not a gift from the parents, the parents are not obligated to try to make it even. And big brother sure as heck isn’t obligated to do so. I’m normally a big proponent of family helping family, but not in this case
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My “in my head” Voice My “in my head” Voice Community Member Follow
Where is her father in all this? What about the fiancés family? Why is Tom suddenly on the hook? He's funding his own wedding, so he's likely to be strapped himself.
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Kathy Grimm Kathy Grimm Community Member Follow
Exactly 💯
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Bernd Herbert Bernd Herbert Community Member Follow
22, studying and wants a fancy wedding. Yeah rigth….
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Jeremy Crocker Jeremy Crocker Community Member Follow
Yeah, if the wife wants everything equal then they need to tell girl to wait until she's out of school and has her own money.
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Sonja Sonja Community Member Follow
I would get the wife's perspective if both children were at the same age and the parents paid the bill. But the son is four years older than the daughter and both are using their own money. The son has waited longer and saved more money. The daughter can just do the same. It's absolutely not fair to penalize the son for the decision of the daughter to marry while still in school. That's on her! She can just do what her brother did, wait four more years and save some money. Maybe try to get a job before they marry to pay for it. Expecting her brother to foot her bill just so she can marry four years earlier than him is entitled and ridiculous. And yes, I know they're marrying in the same year, but since she's younger it's four years earlier in her life than for him. And that's what makes this unfair. Their situations are not the same, and her brother is not responsible for that difference. Her hurry is the reason why she can't afford a similar wedding.
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Brocken Blue Brocken Blue Community Member Follow
Yup, if it’s not a gift from the parents, the parents are not obligated to try to make it even. And big brother sure as heck isn’t obligated to do so. I’m normally a big proponent of family helping family, but not in this case
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My “in my head” Voice My “in my head” Voice Community Member Follow
Where is her father in all this? What about the fiancés family? Why is Tom suddenly on the hook? He's funding his own wedding, so he's likely to be strapped himself.
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Kathy Grimm Kathy Grimm Community Member Follow
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Bernd Herbert Bernd Herbert Community Member Follow
22, studying and wants a fancy wedding. Yeah rigth….
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Jeremy Crocker Jeremy Crocker Community Member Follow
Yeah, if the wife wants everything equal then they need to tell girl to wait until she's out of school and has her own money.
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